What is ghosting? Why do people do it? And, perhaps more importantly, if you’ve been ghosted – how do you move on from the experience and evolve?
My guest, Leah Marshall, is the founder and leader of the Esther Perel Discussion Group on Facebook, a global community of over 6,000 members who come together in person and online to discuss relationships, sex, dating, desire, and infidelity.
In this episode, we talk about Leah’s experiences with ghosting, how one was a massive springboard for her own growth and evolution, and the critical piece that’s missing from so many dating experts’ advice on ghosting. Leah has authored dating and relationship content for media outlets including YourTango, ManTalks, Mend, Daily Urbanista, and more.
“It’s so easy to wear the cosy cloak of victimhood and say “I was ghosted!” – but I think there are so many moments in a relationship where if we examine them, we see the role that we created the dynamic for that to happen” Leah, Episode 16, The Way We Connect
Listen here: https://anchor.fm/the-way-we-connect/episodes/Have-you-ever-been-ghosted—-with-Leah-Marshall-ea310c
You can connect with Leah on Instagram at @msleahmarshall, through her blog at https://leapcastlife.wordpress.com/, and in the Esther Perel Discussion Group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/793115204193690/.
An article by Leah: “GHOSTED: 10 Lessons That Made The Heartache Worth It on Medium.com
Video: What Psychologists Can Tell You About Ghosting
Article (Psychology Today): This is Why Ghosting Hurts So Much
Destiny vs Growth mindsets and attitudes to ghosting –– Franiuk, R., Cohen, D., & Pomerantz, E. M. (2002). Implicit theories of relationships: Implications for relationship satisfaction and longevity. Personal Relationships, 9(4), 345-367.
Why People Ghost – LeFebvre, L. E., Allen, M., Rasner, R. D., Garstad, S., Wilms, A., & Parrish, C. (2019). Ghosting in emerging adults’ romantic relationships: The digital dissolution disappearance strategy. Imagination, Cognition and Personality, 0276236618820519.