Why do people break up? What’s the best (and worst) way to break up with someone? What influences the way we react to a breakup… and can exes still stay friends?
These are just some of the questions we try to answer in our first feature-length episode on Breakups, where we invite our awesome friend Emma into the studio to discuss how her 6-year relationship went downhill, explore our own experiences and even discuss a few studies that have looked into relationship break-ups.
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Here are some of the things we mentioned in the episode:
A survey looking into the reasons why people break up was created by The Breakup App, and you can find it here: http://www.thebreakupapp.com/community/breakup-quiz/ The Breakup App also claims to be “a relationship journal with superpowers”, so might be interesting to check out if you’re going through a break-up!
The study from the University of Hawaii that looked at how men and women typically have different reactions to breakups can be found here, and here’s the academic reference for people who like that kind of thing: Choo, P., Levine, T., & Hatfield, E. (1996). Gender, love schemas, and reactions to romantic break-ups. Journal of Social Behavior and Personality, 11(5), 143.
Dweck & Howe, who looked at how ‘growth mindsets‘ can help us recover from breakups, can be read here : Howe, L. C., & Dweck, C. S. (2016). Changes in self-definition impede recovery from rejection. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 42(1), 54-71.
The School of Life video that I mentioned called Can Exes be Friends? can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTuDks4ogs0
What are your thoughts? Do you have a breakup story you want to share? Any great tips on how to move on after a difficult breakup? Leave your comments below or hit us up on Facebook or Twitter!