Do you sometimes struggle to get “in the mood”? Is that something to do with you, your partner, or your relationship? What’s “normal”, sexually, anyway?
Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle. She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies.
In this episode, we explore what it means to be “normal” – especially for a woman, who – if you’re like most of us – has been told her whole life that she’s either too horny, too prudish, ‘broken’ because she can’t get turned on or have orgasms on demand, or made to feel in some way as if she’s not… normal.
Join us as we talk desire, arousal, attraction, stress, and Dual Systems theory. Is the secret to good sex desire, or closeness? What about those people who claim we need to maintain healthy ‘distance’ in order to create mystery, which in turn fuels desire? How can stress kill our sex drive? How has Patriarchal thinking destroyed the way we relate to our own, and each other’s, bodies? Why are we more likely to have an orgasm if we’re wearing socks?
Listen here: https://anchor.fm/the-way-we-connect/episodes/How-Stress-Kills-your-Sex-Drive–Desire–Arousal–and-Cold-Feet—with-Emily-Nagoski-eamh1f
Emily Nagoski’s website: http://www.emilynagoski.com/ – everything you need is here!