Episode 24: Mediation and Conflict (in Quarantine) – with Mirella Kreder

What is conflict management and mediation? What is the role of emotions in managing conflict? And how can we deal with conflict in quarantine – when we are forced to spend more time than usual with the people we live with?

MirellaMy guest, Mirella Kreder, is an organisational consultant and mediator, specialised in communication, business psychology and development. She offers business consulting and mediation to all kinds of organisations and individuals seeking such expertise in the Czech Republic and abroad.

Join us as we discuss the field of mediation – from international conflicts to conflicts in the living room, emotional intelligence, and the stresses of living under quarantine. We recorded this episode under the COVID-19 lockdown.

Listen here

Resources: 

Find Mirella here at Linkedin (website coming soon)

Article: New Research on Stress of Quarantine and 5 Ways to Feel Better

Blog post: Managing Conflict Under Quarantine (good for couples + parents)

What is Mediation? – from Findlaw.com

 

 

 

 

 

Episode 23: How Emotional Intelligence helps us Connect (even in Quarantine)- with Josh Freedman

What is Emotional Intelligence? How can it help us to connect to ourselves and each other – especially during unprecedented times like these, where we are more physically disconnected than ever before? And how can we face the painful and difficult realities facing us and the planet right now?

JoshFreedmanMy guest, Joshua Freedman, is one of the world’s leading specialists on developing and applying emotional intelligence to improve performance. He is the CEO of Six Seconds, the the world’s preeminent emotional intelligence organization, and works all over the world delivering trainer certification programs and keynotes, and supporting practitioners in their life-changing work in business, education, and communities.

Join us for a moving conversation on the collective consciousness of this moment, where we discuss the need to turn towards the pain of climate change and to grieve, the vital lessons we are learning during lockdown, and how EQ might be part of helping us to create a better world.

Listen here: Emotional Intelligence and Connection (in Quarantine)

Or WATCH the full, unedited conversation here: How Emotional Intelligence helps us Connect (including in Quarantine)

Resources: 

Josh’s website: https://jmfreedman.com/ 

Joshua Freedman on LinkedIn 

Six Seconds – the Emotional Intelligence Network

14 Resources for Emotional Health During Coronavirus Times (Six Seconds)

What is Emotional Intelligence? Exploring the Six Seconds tools (from my Coaching blog)

 

Episode 21: How Stress Kills your Sex Drive : Desire, Arousal, and Cold Feet (with Emily Nagoski)

Do you sometimes struggle to get “in the mood”? Is that something to do with you, your partner, or your relationship? What’s “normal”, sexually, anyway?

Emily+NagoskiEmily Nagoski is the award-winning  author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle. She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies.

In this episode, we explore what it means to be “normal” – especially for a woman, who – if you’re like most of us – has been told her whole life that she’s either too horny, too prudish, ‘broken’ because she can’t get turned on or have orgasms on demand, or made to feel in some way as if she’s not… normal.

Join us as we talk desire, arousal, attraction, stress, and Dual Systems theory. Is the secret to good sex desire, or closeness? What about those people who claim we need to maintain healthy ‘distance’ in order to create mystery, which in turn fuels desire? How can stress kill our sex drive? How has Patriarchal thinking destroyed the way we relate to our own, and each other’s, bodies? Why are we more likely to have an orgasm if we’re wearing socks?

Listen here: https://anchor.fm/the-way-we-connect/episodes/How-Stress-Kills-your-Sex-Drive–Desire–Arousal–and-Cold-Feet—with-Emily-Nagoski-eamh1f 

Resources:

Emily Nagoski’s website: http://www.emilynagoski.com/ – everything you need is here!

 

Episode 19: How can we connect to ourselves, to others, and to Nature? with Christina Echevarria

Do you feel that you are truly connected to yourself, to others, and to Nature? What does it mean to suffer from ‘nature deficit disorder’? How can we use ancient rituals such as tea ceremonies and sharing circles to bring about a more connected, conscious world?

ChristinaChristina Echevarria, MSc is a Transformational Mentor, Breathworker and Ceremonialist based in St. Petersburg, Florida. She is devoted to serving her community (virtually and locally) in ways that empower embodied awakening, heart-centered transformation, holistic healing, and authentic connections to ourselves, to others and to the Earth. I met her during our MSc course, where we were two of the only people who seemed to recognise the importance of spending time in nature for our overall wellbeing.

In this episode, we delve into everything from heart-opening cacao ceremonies to how we can help society to face the existential crisis presented by the latest climate science. We discuss the importance of rituals and rites to bring us in line with others and ourselves, and emphasise how vital it is that we are able to recognise that we are part of nature.

Listen here: https://anchor.fm/the-way-we-connect/episodes/How-can-we-connect-to-ourselves–to-others–and-to-Nature–with-Christina-Echevarria-ea30vs

Resources:

Christina’s website Stellar Shift – https://www.thestellarshift.com/

My MSc thesis – 30 Minutes in Nature a Day Can Increase Mood, Well-Being, Meaning in Life and Mindfulness: Effects of a Pilot Programme

Article – Children spend half the time playing outside than their parents did
Article – 3/4 of UK children spend less time outdoors than prison inmates
Article – People spend most of their waking hours staring at screens

Book – Richard Louv – Last Child in the Woods

Article: 10,000 – 100,000 species going extinct every year

Article – It’s official, spending time in nature is good for you

I also recommend Project Wild Thing, a documentary I was a *tiny* bit involved with back in 2015 (I helped them get a couple of screenings in Welsh cinemas) – https://www.thewildnetwork.com/inspiration/project-wild-thing

Episode 14: Street harassment, trust and safe spaces: How do we deal with feeling unsafe?

Why do some people feel safe in one situation, while others are afraid? What does it mean to create a safe space? Does having a sense of community make us feel safer? And how can we deal with those times when we feel unsafe?

Screen Shot 2019-06-16 at 14.32.07Our guest, Desi, is a burlesque teacher and movement therapist, and has just started her own podcast – See You Next Tuesday – where she explores what it means to feel safe. Her own journey may have started with the rigorous safety training she received as a child, but true inspiration struck at the most surprising time. We discuss differences in safety between the USA and the Czech Republic, where we live, including why people react differently to sexual harassment.

Through our conversation, we cover many topics – what it means to feel safe within your own body, how to create a safe space, and how our previous experiences shape what we perceive as safe and unsafe.

Listen to the episode here: https://anchor.fm/the-way-we-connect/episodes/Safety–street-harassment–and-trust-How-do-we-create-safe-spaces-and-deal-will-feeling-unsafe-ea310b

Resources:

Connect with Desi (and her Burlesque personality, Fattyma Cous Cous) on Facebook, Instagram or her website

What happens in our brains when we feel feararticle 

The Neuroscience of Feeling Safe and Connectedarticle

Non-Violent Communication (and Safety as a basic human need): https://nonviolentcommunication.com or this summary 

How Fear is Wired in our Brains – video:

The effect of trauma on the brain and how it affects behaviours – video

Episode 13: Healing collective trauma – with Patrick Dougherty

What is collective trauma? Are the wounds that we bear best addressed behind the closed doors of a therapist’s office, or as a collective? How is collective, intergeneration trauma affecting us all?

patrickdoughertyPatrick Dougherty, M.A., L.P. is a licensed psychologist with 40 years of clinical work and social activism. He is part of an international group working with and developing models dealing with collective trauma (www.pocketproject.org). He is a former US Marine who served in Vietnam and is leading a group specifically working with the collective trauma of armed violence and war (http://movingthroughit.org).

In this episode, Patrick discusses what it was like to return to the US after serving in Vietnam to find that nobody wanted to know what had happened there, about the pain and shame he held inside and tried to work on through therapy, until one day is Jerusalem the words of three women changed his life and his perspective forever.

Patrick argues that looking at trauma as an individual problem will never effectively heal collective pain – we need to work together in groups and communities to address the way different trauma lives in our bodies – and not only in those who identify themselves as victims. According to Patrick, our avoidance of discomfort and our fear of losing our own safety and privilege further drives feeling of trauma and separation.

Listen here: https://anchor.fm/the-way-we-connect/episodes/Healing-Collective-Trauma—with-Patrick-Dougherty-ea30vt

Resources:

The Pocket Project: https://pocketproject.org/

Moving through it: https://movingthroughit.org/introduction/

Healing Collective Trauma: http://www.healingcollectivetrauma.com/

Other articles and resources with Patrick:

Article by Patrick: Helping your Brain and Body Survive the Collective Trauma of 2017

Podcast interview with Patrick on Last Born in the Wilderness

Article by Patrick: Our Bodies Were Not Designed To Process Collective Trauma Alone

Interview with Patrick at the Trauma and Mental Health in Conflict and Migration online conference (do you recognise who’s interviewing him?)

Other resources:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van del Kolk (https://besselvanderkolk.net/the-body-keeps-the-score.html) – a fascinating book about trauma