Episode 14: Street harassment, trust and safe spaces: How do we deal with feeling unsafe?

Why do some people feel safe in one situation, while others are afraid? What does it mean to create a safe space? Does having a sense of community make us feel safer? And how can we deal with those times when we feel unsafe?

Screen Shot 2019-06-16 at 14.32.07Our guest, Desi, is a burlesque teacher and movement therapist, and has just started her own podcast – See You Next Tuesday – where she explores what it means to feel safe. Her own journey may have started with the rigorous safety training she received as a child, but true inspiration struck at the most surprising time. We discuss differences in safety between the USA and the Czech Republic, where we live, including why people react differently to sexual harassment.

Through our conversation, we cover many topics – what it means to feel safe within your own body, how to create a safe space, and how our previous experiences shape what we perceive as safe and unsafe.

Listen to the episode here: http://thewayweconnect.buzzsprout.com/160260/1261217-safety-street-harassment-and-trust-how-do-we-create-safe-spaces-and-deal-will-feeling-unsafe

Resources:

Connect with Desi (and her Burlesque personality, Fattyma Cous Cous) on Facebook, Instagram or her website

What happens in our brains when we feel feararticle 

The Neuroscience of Feeling Safe and Connectedarticle

Non-Violent Communication (and Safety as a basic human need): https://nonviolentcommunication.com or this summary 

How Fear is Wired in our Brains – video:

The effect of trauma on the brain and how it affects behaviours – video

Episode 9: The never-ending search for “the One”

Is our true soul mate out there? Do we need to find them or can we be perfectly happy by ourselves? How do we know when we’ve found the right person?

In this three-part series, we explore questions of compatibility, monogamy, and look at alternatives to the usual story of “meet person, fall in love, live happily ever after”.

Plato used to look at romantic love with skepticism, even horror, and yet today it seems that we are obsessed with romantic love and sex. While marriage was once a financial necessity or a way of ensuring peace between families or nations, we now live in the romantic dream that somewhere out there we can find a person who will complement and complete us in every day. We are bombarded with messages in songs, movies, books and magazines about sex, attraction, romance and finding true love – how are we supposed to feel complete when we are single in a world that focuses so much on pairing up?

In part 1, Louise shares with us her trials and tribulations in love. She’s had ups and downs, with stories both tragic and comic, but she remains positive that the right person is out there for her. Join Lis & Gwen in this frank, open discussion about dating, love, sex, and discuss what it means to be comfortable in your own skin without needing a partner to validate you.

Listen to the episode here: http://thewayweconnect.buzzsprout.com/160260/1037402-compatibility-part-1-the-never-ending-search-for-the-one 

Mentioned in this episode:

The Love Song for Shu-Sin – perhaps the oldest love poem? 

Dr Carol Dweck’s Growth vs Fixed mindsets 

Also worth checking out:

A Brief History of Romantic Love (and why it kind of sucks) – Mark Manson